Gay and lesbian wedding trends and new traditionsLGBTQ+
13 Jun 2016 Meg HumphriesGay weddings and lesbian weddings are still in their infancy, but already some trends and gay wedding traditions are emerging. Be it a new and practical option or a twist on ancient tradition, same-sex couples are getting creative. We’ll drink to that!
Here are a few of the liberating and lovely touches seen across the weddosphere …
1. The Giveaway
The age-old ritual of the bride being given away by her father doesn’t translate very well into gay and lesbian weddings, but this is a great opportunity to do things your way.
After all, why shouldn’t you both get to walk down the aisle? And why shouldn’t you get to choose who (if anyone) will walk with you? Lots of couples now link arms with, not one but, two parents as they make that emotional journey down the room.
Many others choose to walk solo to the spot where they’ll say their vows. After all, it’s a grown-up kind of action, so why not be independent? Whatever your decision, make sure it resonates with your personality and principles so that you can look back proudly on your choice.
Here’s your ‘something old’! Covenants have been used at weddings for hundreds of years. They are large sheets of paper call for all guests to sign their names, along with the officiant, couple and ‘official’ witnesses. Why is this so popular at gay weddings and lesbian weddings? Well, it’s a nice touch anyway and makes everyone feel included. It can even substitute a guestbook.
A ‘community’ commitment may be particularly significant for gay and lesbian couples, who may have historically had a harder time and less support from their network. In this context, each guest being a part of the wedding is a reminder of how far things have come – and a reminder to any less open-minded relatives that love is love.
3. Pre-ceremony cocktail hour
A generous way to get the conversation flowing even earlier! For guests, entering a room with a load of strangers sitting quietly isn’t that appealing.
Gay and lesbian couples are increasingly opting for a cocktail hour (or half-hour) before the ceremony. It makes guests more at ease, which will add to the joyful atmosphere as you say your vows.
4. Two aisles
Because choosing who gets to walk down first is just too tricky! Sure, there’s scissors, paper, stone, but two walkways are now popular, particularly with lesbian couples, who are more likely to process down to the front of the room (come on, grooms – no reason you can’t do it too!).
Some couples choose to decorate the aisles differently, with individual touches. Your photographer will go into meltdown when it’s time to enter the room, but don’t let that stop you from adopting this touching tradition.
5. New readings
Let’s face it: if you’re a gay or lesbian couple, you can’t sleepwalk into the done-to-death readings in the same way heterosexual couples might. While anyone can fall into the cliché trap, gay and lesbian couples often have to search a bit harder for quotes about love, as so many refer to ‘one man and one woman’.
This extra hard work can be stressful, yes, but it can result in some of the best moments of your day in which your guests get to hear something beautiful and original. If you’re not sure where to start, here are some of our favourite gender-neutral love quotes.
Are you adopting any of these same-sex wedding traditions for your W-day? What other traditions are you keeping/dropping/reinventing?
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